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    Friday
    May112012

    Changing Perspective

     

    I had an interesting conversation with my #2 Son recently where he "informed" me that he was going sailing up to the Abrolhos Islands during his Easter break from Uni.  I had absolutely no objection to him embarking on this fun adventure, none whatsoever.  What struck me as different was that for more or less the first time (about something reasonably important) he was not "ASKING" me if he could go, but telling me he was and it was sort of "oh, by the way Mum, Clare and I are going......."

    After I put the phone down I realised that yet another phase of my life has started.  One where I am no longer in charge of the train that my children ride.  Both of them are now at University, half way around the world from me.  They both have lovely girlfriends and though they still need to call for emergency bank transfers (often), I have very little control over how they live their lives any more. 

    This realisation has come with some interesting consquences.  I have discovered that I now have no particular reason to spend half the year in Australia. My days of showing up for Parent Teacher meetings are over, no more sports carnivals or canteen duty or chocolate touting fund raisers.  I have months of Mother-time to figure out what to do with and it's making my brain itch!  In a good way I think ....now I just have to figure out how to scratch that itch and find a new focal point in life. .....not that they boys won't always be THE focal point, but you get what I mean right?

     

    Reader Comments (20)

    Oh...Marie. I'm right there with you. On the one hand it's free-ing to know that you're not needed in quite the same way...on the other hand - it's strangely unsettling. But - isn't it great to see them grow???
    A wonderful post for me to read today..thank-you!

    May 11, 2012 | Registered CommenterMarcie

    First of all, Marie, I LOVE this image from you today. Wowser. Secondly, one big resounding YES to the empty-nest syndrome. When our children finally grow up and start making their own decisions/life, it is a new experience altogether. Very freeing, if you are able to accept it. However, if you don't mind my saying so...if those bank transfers are from YOUR money, I would say you still have some control over them! I hope?

    May 11, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterGinnie

    Marie, I have to confess that I know enough about myself to suspect I would be a bit panicked about parental changes like this. It makes me uncomfortable. But I think, as with other changes I've resisted, sometimes you realize that the passages of life actually prepare you in their own way, and you are more prepared than you think. It's odd, nonetheless, but kind of exciting. Which Marie is just around the corner (or already here) !!

    You've certainly prepared them for life, haven't you? Yay for mom!

    May 11, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterChris

    marie, , I am so glad to see that you have realized it is a new era with the boys and will be a good one for both! too many Moms dont want to let go of their babies! Its a good time for this to evolve ! you ( I think) will be moving to a new home and making a new life too! enjoy the new freedom , momma bird! soon it will be "We thought we'd come to visit, Mom"

    May 11, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterlyle baxter

    Outstanding image, Marie! Things will all fall into place, it's just the nature of it all.

    May 11, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterSusan

    And on the other end of life, there's a parallel experience. Even now, ten months after my mother's death, I'm just beginning to develop new habits and new routines to fill the space left by her passing. Since she lived in her home to the end and I was her caregiver, that's a significant space to fill! I still find myself at certain times of the day, like dinnertime, staring into space - then I realize I'm not "on-call" to make dinner, sort someone else's mail and so on.

    I've got a lot more time, but it takes time to learn how to use it!

    May 11, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLinda

    I think the most difficult thing for me has been in realizing that I really am free to do what I want (to a certain degree). This comes after kids leaving, parents aging, grandchildren arriving, and finally realizing that I have done that job and should stop holding on to it.

    May 11, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMother

    One of the things that happened to me at this point of my motherhood was enjoying watching my children "handle" me, and then the worry about all the times they handled me and I didn't know it. Watching my children become adults is delightful, horrifying, amusing and frightening - like every other part of motherhood.

    Wonderful image! I had a smile on my face during I read your words... Marie, that's life and our kids are going their own way, but they always carry us into their heart as you do! Luckily we have enough ideas in our heads, that life is not boring.

    May 11, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterChristine Baier

    Oh what a gift of "freedom" and what a journey you have ahead of you!!

    Lovely image... perfect for your words. I appreciate your view of this life transition, specifically that you are looking forward to finding new focal points.

    May 11, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterDori

    I can see mine a comin' down the road - feels like its begining, both my kiddos have jobs for the summer in addition to all their other activities and their sweethearts - I hardly see them, not sure I like it totally and its going to be wierd when they both go off to college in a year(for DD) and 2(for DS).....

    May 11, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterTera

    Great post !

    May 12, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterPetra

    Ahhh yes, I know the feeling. My oldest is 27 and living in Berkeley with a good career going and a great boyfriend. My youngest graduates with his Masters in Teaching next weekend at age 24 and I could not be happier with the choices they are making in their lives. Roles change, and change is good. I welcomed this shift, as it gives me more "art" time, more time to finally find out who I want to be when I grow up :-) Yes, roles change and shift but I will always be their mother . . .

    Have a wonderful weekend, Marie.

    ~K

    May 12, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterkaren burns

    I'm not there yet - four more years until my daughter will graduate from high school and then leave the house. I see it with very mixed feeliings and just want to embrace these four years. Hopefully I can let go of her and send her into the world - just like I did when I was that age. In my eyes, you are doing a fabulous job, Marie.

    May 12, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterCarola

    Yes, there is a change in 'perspective' that come with children maturing and growing...but, they really don't ever totally 'out grow' their love for their mothers or their need for them. Your wonderful image speaks so beautifully to your thoughts in this post.

    May 13, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterSue

    "I am no longer in charge of the train that my children ride."

    What a beautiful saying :) You have given them a great ride <3

    May 13, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterchristine

    Although not in charge of the train you will still be taking the same ride and think what directions your train journey can take you now you have more freedom.

    May 13, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterCherryPie

    It's a mixed emotion transition that you've written about. It's rewarding to see a child become more independent but it's still nice when they call to ask a question about something.

    May 13, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMaery Rose

    oh yes, these are such big transitions... and they open up so many possibilities. my son is about to move out (for the second time) and so my husband and i will be re-adjusting to an empty nest once again...

    it can be hard to make these changes, but there is so much to look forward to all at the same time. and it's nice when the train pulls into home station every so often for a visit...

    May 15, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterkelly

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