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    Monday
    May282012

    Words

    Words are powerful.  Words can encourage, support, or motivate.  Words can lift one to new heights.  However, words can also sting, bite, hurt and have long lasting effects.  We can hold words long in our memories – both the loving, caring, kind words as well as the words we wished we had never spoken or heard.

    Recent events have me thinking today of an innocent conversation my mother and a longtime friend had several years ago; a casual, well-intentioned statement…and the long-term ramifications of a few words.

    The home in which I was raised is a typical older home -- three nice sized bedrooms, living room, dining room, family room, kitchen, bath and a half, and basement; a neat place, filled with love and memories, and always welcoming to all.

    My mother – while she was living – faced multiple medical issues, and over time the family home began to present a series of challenges for mother.  The washer and dryer are in the basement.  The main bath, with shower and tub, is upstairs on the second floor.  The home, while quaint and very nice, lacks some of what we might call ‘modern conveniences.’

    I had spent considerable time in conversation with my parents about moving to a new one-level home in preparation of their ‘golden years.’  We had found a lot on which to build; selected a house plan; and discussed the pros and cons of transitioning with enough time to enjoy life in a new environment.  We enthusiastically talked about having everything new -- new kitchen appliances; new heating and air-conditioner; new paint and carpet – thus making life worry-free, easier for them for the next several years.   

    One day a friend stopped by to visit mother.  In the course of the conversation about the possibly of moving the friend said, “Oh Elvena, how could you possibly leave this beautiful home and move to another place.” 

    That was all it took; just a few words.  The seed of doubt was planted…and lingered, gnawing on mother and daddy until mother passed away.

    Now, several years later, my 92 year-old father is living in this same big-ole house…alone.  While remarkably agile and healthy, he must climb those same stairs to bathe.  He has way to much ‘stuff’ that fills rooms that he doesn’t need or use. 

    I often wonder, what if.  What if that new home had been built when we were talking about it?  What if we had accomplished some of the down-sizing several years ago?  What if those words – “Oh Elvena, how could you possibly leave this beautiful home and move to another place.” – had not been spoken.

    I know, I know.  That move probably wasn’t meant to be.  But, I still can’t help but wonder…what if.

    Texture credit:  Kim Klaussen

    Reader Comments (16)

    So many 'what ifs' in life....
    In my recent teacher training - we talked a lot about words - what words help and heal..and how little things can so easily affect people for better or worse. Very powerful - how a seemingly innocent conversation..can change the course of a person's life. And - on the flip side - perhaps it's living in this house..with all of the memories and stairs to climb - that's keeping your father young?!?!?

    May 28, 2012 | Registered CommenterMarcie

    Really enjoyed reading your story, Sue! Words can be so powerful... I have so many 'what ifs' in my life too! :)

    May 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterSil

    First of all, Sue, your image is awesome! I love how the words on Kim's texture so fit this post today. This is good.

    Secondly, I know how concerned you are for your elderly father in that big house. Being far away from him doesn't help! You aren't close enough to just hop over if something unexpected happens. I feel for you in this. No wonder you would think about "what if." We all would.

    Now I'm thinking about what Astrid often says about death having its reason. You don't want it to be "the house," of course. But it will be something and you might end up being pleasantly surprised. So for that I pray you'll have peace of mind. Maybe Marcie is right...that all those stairs and memories are keeping him alive a lot longer than otherwise!

    May 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterGinnie

    Boy, I've said this before ... so many very wise women come here! Like Marcie and Sil stated there are so many what if's in our lives especially if we've gotten to be our certain age ~ and maybe that house does have something to do with your dad's long life ~ and Ginnie's right, that is an awesome image ~ and words, oh the words are such powerful little things. I always get so much here to think about, thank you all.

    May 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterSusan

    girl, this was written for me! for 2 years, i have been looking at other houses, and just a few months ago began surveying land we already own to build that house your father didn't move into...and now....well...renovating. yep. and...just to twin your post to my life, i live in a house that is completely vertical. that's right. about 8 levels. have been here for 29 years running up and down and down and up. top that with a studio down the drive that i built 11 years ago, and you have stuff that no one needs and stairs that are hard to climb!

    ...and memories, and frogs, and trees, and whispers of children asking for one more story...some of us stay. some of us move. what if? those two words contain volumes for all of us.

    great post with super image. thanks

    May 28, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterhoney

    compelling thoughts and a lovely image. words are powerful indeed! xo

    May 28, 2012 | Unregistered Commentertraceyclark

    What if...she moved and didn't like the new home...we can ask these questions but yet I can't help but wonder if your father needed to be with her in her house until she died. Will he move now?

    May 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterPuna

    I think the move wasn't meant to be, those stairs have kept your father fit and the familiar surroundings have probably sustained him too.

    May 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterCherryPie

    Words can be so powerful - healing and hurting, comforting and upsetting.
    So many "what ifs" in my life as well - but I can't help to ask whether the non-move was meant to be? We had a very similar issue with my parents, and I haven't stopped aksing the "what if" question.

    May 29, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterCarola

    Exactly one year ago today I came home to check on my mom and found her on the floor in the bathroom. She hadn't fallen, exactly, but there she was, and couldn't get up, even with my help. It was the beginning of the end - five weeks in hospitals and such, and then she was gone.

    She was 93, and more than ready to go. But we'd managed to keep her in her own apartment rather than making a move to one of "those places".

    Now, here's the irony. My aunt, age 85, had been after us to make that move because it would be less trouble for me, and she thought Mom might enjoy being with other people. It never would have worked, for a lot of reasons. But, my aunt made that move to assisted living about a year before Mom died. Just this week, she gave up her assisted living place to move back in with one of my cousins. "Oh," she says, "if I had known how miserable it was gong to be, I never would have done it. You were so smart to not let me influence you!"

    Life is just crazy, sometimes. We never know how things will work out, and sometimes it seems they work out in spite of us. I hope that's true for your dad.

    May 29, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLinda

    ...the seed of doubt was planted...very powerful and so true Sue.Your post resonates so much with me :-)
    I am trying to think of words as little balls of energy and to deal with them this way, being careful and aware to what I listen to.

    You've written a very thought provoking post. And the photo is outstanding!

    I often question my own decision about buying a house at my age after my divorce. At the time, I needed to feel rooted and to have a home no one could take away from me and to not go from 9 acres down to a townhome or apartment. But it's a lot of work, doing the gardening and yardwork and housework and taking care of the animals I love. What if I was freer to travel more? Had more time to write and read? Could simply do nothing once in awhile? And those stairs... On the other hand, I love what I'm doing and want to continue until I simply cannot. Choices can always be questioned but I try to stop myself when I start and just enjoy the life I'm living right now.

    May 30, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMaery Rose

    Funny that we use 'what-if' only if we think we might have done better. Do we ever use it the other way around?
    Very thought provoking post Sue.

    May 30, 2012 | Registered CommenterPetra

    My parents are in this same situation now, but my mother simply won't think of moving... too many memories, etc. Those what ifs love to poke their little heads up every so often, don't they? It's difficult, I suppose to leave a place you love. At least your mother's friends comment was well intentioned... and perhaps it simply reaffirmed what your mother was already feeling?
    A recent visitor to my parent's house said, "You have a lot of stuff to get rid of, don't you?" Sheesh...

    May 30, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterkelly

    my father still lives in our old family house, which would be far too big for him if he were on his own. but my sister (twin) and her husband and small children came up with the best solution some years ago; they now live in the main part of the house and dad, is downstairs in the granny flat - it has given him a whole new lease of life, as he turns 80. he has his grandchildren right with him, which he loves...and they love him. i guess this wouldn't work for everyone, but my sister is very tolerent of our father's funny little quirks, and i love that dad has his family around.

    May 31, 2012 | Registered CommenterEliza

    Sue, the layering and texture in this photo is to die for. Just beautiful! I'm another one that can relate. My parents are 85 and 87 and still remain on the family farm where they've lived for 60 plus years. My dad has Alzheimer's and even though they are both in pretty good physical condition, I know that one day will come that I'll have to step in and make some changes. But for now I so want to keep my dad in familiar surroundings at least until his disease really takes over. Life is just one big circle, isn't it? Wonderful post!

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